Online Dating

By Julian Cowie

Online Dating is here in a big way and it's here to stay. There are millions of Dating Sites catering for all types of people whatever their preferences.

In days gone by singles would meet at family gatherings. Things were more formal and strict back then and there were rules that had to be adhered to. Couples had great difficulty getting to spend time alone, away from the watchful eyes of parents and other family members, there was little chance of any hanky-panky!

In the fifties things began to change. Gradually young people were gaining more freedom, Rock and Roll was starting to take precedence. Elvis was shaking his hips and the revolution was well and truly beginning. Older teens would hang out at the local Milk Bar, where they could meet members of the opposite sex in their own environment. There were youth clubs and dances where young people could meet with their friends.

Society was beginning to free up. There was more freedom more openness, of course not everyone thought that this was a good thing, but it was happening anyway.

How times have changed in fifty or so years. There are so many avenues of communication open to everyone now, the internet, mobile phones, texting, just to name a few. Gee teenagers don't even have to talk any more, they just text away to each other. Try having a conversation with them sometime, getting them to string a sentence together can be like extracting teeth.

While online dating is for all ages, I think it is particularly good for baby boomers. Maybe you have been out of the dating scene for some time and you don't know where to start. Your heart may have been broken and you feel apprehensive about dating again. Well fear not because with dating online you can take your time. You can be anonymous and only respond to emails that you want to and only give out as much personal detail as you want to.

One thing all Men hate is rejection, nothing dents their ego more. Have you ever been madly in love with someone (from afar), it takes you weeks to get the courage to even go up to her in the pub and ask her to dance. I've seen guys just get ignored, the girl has turned her back! Not said a word. Oh women can be so cruel! She turns you down flat, or says something really hurtful, like

“I wouldn't dance with you if you were the only guy on the planet and we were stranded on a desert island!”

The worst thing is now you have to walk back to your seat feeling really small and feeling hurt.

Online dating can save you from this embarrassing situation. When you're not face to face you can break the ice and get to know the person before you get to the actual first date. Rejection is easier to handle in an email or in one on one chat. There will always be some people who are attracted to you and some that are not, that is just the way it is, no point in wasting time worrying about what might have been. There are plenty of people out there and your soul mate could be just a mouse click away.

Look around the net, get to know what is available before you decide. Visit dating forums, read the dating profiles, get a feel for how it all works, don't be desperate, that is a real turn off, as they say There are Plenty of Fish in the Sea, they were there yesterday, they will be there tomorrow, so relax and enjoy the journey.